Men, it’s not all about size or length of performance. We bust common sex myths for a better time in the bedroom.
Ah, sex. We all crave it, but so many of us harbour so much misinformation about it. You might think you know all there is to know about it, because you’ve been having sex for years. But you may still believe in some myths about sex, and this article seeks to correct your incorrect beliefs –
#1. The bigger, the better. Size may matter during sex, but bigger is not always better. Sometimes, a big penis can be too big for a woman – there is only so much space in her vaginal canal that can accommodate a penis till it starts bumping into her cervix and causing mild pain. A big penis may also cause slight tearing and bleeding after intercourse. So, if you’re hesitant about having sex with her because you feel you’re too small down there – relax. It’s not about size, it’s about technique.
#2. Porn can be a guiding force. Some men are into pornography, and it is often their introduction to sexual technique. But what you see in pornography is often unrealistic, so to expect your partner to go along with some of the things you’ve ‘learnt’ in a smutty video is not fair to both of you. If you want to try a new move, discuss it with your partner beforehand. It’s never wise to just break out a new move in the bedroom without your partner’s permission. Proceed if she’s okay with it, and stop if she’s not.
#3. Condoms take the fun out of sex. Another myth that we wish to dispel right this minute, is that condoms reduce the pleasure of sexual contact. It depends on which kind of condom you use. If you use a thin condom, for instance, then you get as close to skin-on-skin contact as you possibly can. Condoms from leading brands are designed to heighten your pleasure, not diminish it.
#4. If she needs lube, you’re not doing your job. She should be sufficiently lubricated down there for sex to be comfortable to you both. But some women have difficulty getting wet even after arousal – and it may not have anything to do with your prowess as a lover. She could be approaching menopause, or having a reaction to certain medication, or facing some stress. Whatever the reason, approach her use of lube with empathy instead of insecurity. It’s not about you at all!
#5. Sex toys are for her exclusive use. Again, not true. Sex toys can be used by both partners in the bedroom, and in many cases, they actually help to improve your sex life. They add an element of excitement as you mutually experiment with the toy in bed. Plus, it acquaints you with certain erogenous zones of your body that you were not aware of, while unlocking many fantasies and causing earthshattering orgasms.
